Helping You Child Through Separation Anxiety at Bedtime

If bedtime is feeling like a battle with tears, clinging and “don’t go!”, you’re not alone. Separation anxiety is a normal phase that many children go through, especially between the ages of 12 months - 3 years. So how do you handle a separation anxiety phase and keeping sleep on track?

Keep a Predictable Routine: A consistent bedtime routine like a bath, favourite book and cuddles, helps your child feel safe and ready for sleep. They begin to recognize the steps of their routine and what comes next creating a sense of familiarity around bedtime,

.Bucket Filling Activities: Taking time in the evening to spend intentional time with your child doing something they enjoy will help fill their bucket when it comes to connection. This could be as simple as playing with them or colouring with them.

Use Comfort Items: A special stuffed animal or lovey can provide reassurance to your little one when you are not in the room. If your little one is over 12 months of age, it is safe to introduce a small stuffed animal or lovey during sleep.

And most of all, be patient. They are working through some big emotions and learning that they are safe independent from Mommy and Daddy. Remember, you are their safe place. With a little patience and consistency, bedtime will get easier for both of you as they grow their independent and move past this phase. Looking for support on working through a fighting bedtime phase? Book a free discovery call and I can help you get bedtime feeling a whole lot easier!